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Reality doesn't work like that. The stress and depression from lack of income and the prospect of homelessness will rapidly destroy the "good feelings" that pow

Reality doesn't work like that. The stress and depression from lack of income and the prospect of homelessness will rapidly destroy the "good feelings" that power love and a relationship as well as many women's attraction to their male partner. If a woman can escape homelessness and poverty by re-marrying someone else, it seems to be a rational choice. Do you really think she would tough it out with him on the streets just for the sake of "love?" Why -- to avoid a latent feeling of guilt? We are all self-interested beings, even the love we offer others is in our own self-interest. I would have got my spousal visa to Germany asap and headed there with the wife, personally.

kamaal 13y ago
Almost any partner who can't be with you during your struggles definitely doesn't deserve to be with you during your success. Besides, what the purpose of a man's life anyway? To slog until death to provide milk and honey to the kids and wife. And then be perfectly OK to be dumped like a 'use and throw' napkin on the street when you can't provide further. While the wife goes to live with another man, and kids go their paths. I wouldn't be surprised if marriage as an institution is completely destroyed in the far future. Because after some time men will make 'rational' choices too. Its far better to stay single make money for your later years. Than to have a family who is going to milk you until they can, and ultimately leave you anyway.
rurounijones 13y ago
It SOUNDS like she went to Germany first so that their children had a safety net which seems totally prudent. I don't think the other guy came into it until later. I would also be interested to know if they divorced before or after the move to Germany.