> I think he's saying that falsely implanted self-esteen, a la "everyones a unique special winner!", is a problem. I certainly hated that growing up. It was y

> I think he's saying that falsely implanted self-esteen, a la "everyones a unique special winner!", is a problem. I certainly hated that growing up. It was years before I could believe I had done anything right, because people would say the same things either way. But I think tokenadult was actually proposing something else: not focusing on oneself so much. Much like CS Lewis's concept of humility: "could create the greatest cathedral in the world, know it is the best, and rejoice in the fact that it is the most wondrous of all cathedrals; without being any more or less glad that he created it than he would be if someone else had created the cathedral." Or to take another CS Lewis quote: "And every state of mind, left to itself, every shutting up of the creature within the dungeon of its own mind - is, in the end, Hell. But Heaven is not a state of mind. Heaven is reality itself." Focusing on self-esteem instead of the goal or substance at hand is shutting a creature within the dungeon of its own mind. That really is a great phrase for it.