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Well how much "suffering" is it for you to work the way you do? I mean no pain no gain. If you want to win a race you have to train, right? In this case the ra
by larrys 13y ago
Well how much "suffering" is it for you to work the way you do?
I mean no pain no gain. If you want to win a race you have to train, right? In this case the race is making sure you have enough socked away so you can be financially secure if you ever lose your ib bank job. Or just making enough to live a nice life. Not having to worry about money is also a stress reliever and gives you one less thing to lose sleep over. Nobody ever lost sleep over working hard, right?
"Should I go to every single one of my kids' activities or should I spend some of them at home working?"
Well, when your kids get old-er they will care more about what you can do for them that requires money. Not whether you missed a game or not. I've had girlfriends in the past with parents that have been the parent at everything they do. And once the child reaches late high school or college age they care more that their friend has a vacation home and that their dad can't pay for college or buy them things. So I'm firmly in the camp of "miss the events and make money". Other will tell you differently. Not that kids whose parents aren't around don't whine or you won't find a kid who has a "rich" parent who says they would have rather spent more time with them. That's what they say. But the truth is that's short sighted.
- zaidf 13y agoSo I'm firmly in the camp of "miss the events and make money". Other will tell you differently. Not that kids whose parents aren't around don't whine or you won't find a kid who has a "rich" parent who says they would have rather spent more time with them. That's what they say. But the truth is that's short sighted. Right on! When my father's job hook up in Dubai fell apart, he called my mom informing her that he can either return home to India to continue his struggling career or he can come to the US on a visit visa. My mom told him to take his chances and then spent hours tearing up, unclear how she was going to take care of four little kids. It would take another seven years before my dad could get the rest of his family here. For all of that time, I barely knew my dad(there was no VoIP:). But the end result--or even the goal--made it all worth it.
- larrys 13y agoYou know what? There are americans that feel the way you do (and that I do) and they were raised in immigrant families more than likely. (As I was.) So it doesn't surprise me at all to hear that your father did what he did and now you see how glad you are that he made those choices which you benefited from. Not to mention what you mother went through.
- zaidf 13y agoHey OT: I see that you have experience acquiring domains. I had a question related to it but couldn't find your contact info. Any way to reach you? You can drop me a line at zaidREMOVETHISPART@crystalmd.com, as well.
- gknoy 13y agoHow will those kids feel once they are older, though? The things I miss from living with my dad were the little things, like helping him with tech support, or eating steaks while talking about $whatever, or seeing a movie on Sunday afternoons with him. Maybe it's that I have never had a rich parent to shower me with luxury, so it never seemed a reasonable thing to expect.