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As an introvert, this is wrong. Example: everyone sucks at rocket science the first few times. But maybe if I try one more time... It actually really helps to

As an introvert, this is wrong. Example: everyone sucks at rocket science the first few times. But maybe if I try one more time... It actually really helps to get pointers like these. Something like "focus your efforts on groups of two" can give you a) a lifeline and b) something to look forward to rather than dreading the occasion...and having that "this may be fun" mindset can take you that much further. I know a few introverts who just "got over it" but there are many more who can barely keep their heads above water in social situations. I've gotten a lot better over the years thanks to practice, but tips like these are gold to me.

timje1 13y ago
Fair enough, I mean with regards to social situations, one is generally a worse performer when nervous. Fight or flight kicks in, and you start stuttering your words, stumbling and generally being a bit of an arse because your body is getting ready to leg it down the road. Once you've done it a few times (as long as you weren't savaged by wolves) you tend to get over that initial nervousness, and everything comes more easily when you get a bit less nervous. As far as I know, being nervous while doing rocket science doesn't kill your level of success - instead, this is more likely to be based on things like the amount you've studied rocket science. I agree that this technique could be instrumental to getting people into these situations. I'm just pointing out that anything that gets people into these situations will help.
eruditely 13y ago
Oh please nobody said hit your head against a wall repeatedly. Deliberative practice.
- orthecreedence 13y ago
  Fuh fuh fuh
onethingnew 13y ago
I am so glad you found this story helpful. This advice made a world of difference to me, and frankly I'm still surprised it worked so well. I hope it helps others too!

timje1 13y ago

Fair enough, I mean with regards to social situations, one is generally a worse performer when nervous. Fight or flight kicks in, and you start stuttering your words, stumbling and generally being a bit of an arse because your body is getting ready to leg it down the road. Once you've done it a few times (as long as you weren't savaged by wolves) you tend to get over that initial nervousness, and everything comes more easily when you get a bit less nervous. As far as I know, being nervous while doing rocket science doesn't kill your level of success - instead, this is more likely to be based on things like the amount you've studied rocket science. I agree that this technique could be instrumental to getting people into these situations. I'm just pointing out that anything that gets people into these situations will help.

eruditely 13y ago

Oh please nobody said hit your head against a wall repeatedly. Deliberative practice.

orthecreedence 13y ago
Fuh fuh fuh

onethingnew 13y ago

I am so glad you found this story helpful. This advice made a world of difference to me, and frankly I'm still surprised it worked so well. I hope it helps others too!