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I'd also add that body language of a pair talking will tell you if you are welcome to stick around and converse. If they separate slightly to accommodate your

I'd also add that body language of a pair talking will tell you if you are welcome to stick around and converse. If they separate slightly to accommodate your presence and address you by looking at you when they are talking, you are good to go. If they stay facing each other and do quick glances at you, they are probably having a more intimate discussion which may be hard if you are standing there listening. Body language is the key - pay attention to it.

orthecreedence 13y ago
Also pay attention to shoulders. Do they slightly turn towards you? Somewhat open to meeting you. Do they turn towards you completely? Probably sick of talking to each other. Even the slightest turn away? Try another set, or be prepared to work for their attention. The body communicates so much. Once you are aware of these cues, you can read people like crazy.
benched 13y ago
I always wonder just how well body language really correlates with intention, in general. For example, whenever I'm standing in a pair or group, and somebody walks over, I always consciously reorient myself to help include the new person. But I never seem to notice other people doing the same. I think I use my body language quite consciously, but I usually get the impression that it is mostly unconscious for others. Yet, I can't really know this for sure.
- TheSOB88 13y ago
  Same thing with me. I feel like the only other people who do this are high school teachers (???).
DanielRibeiro 13y ago
100 times yes. This book is amazing for this[1]. You can skim it online[2], but I highly suggest getting a real copy. There are so many things to pay attention to, but one of the greatest realizations for me was that your body language can and does affect other people's, even if they are not aware of it. [1] http://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723 http://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0... [2] http://www.slideshare.net/anhnguyet_hro/the-definitive-bookofbodylanguageallanbarbarapease http://www.slideshare.net/anhnguyet_hro/the-definitive-booko...

orthecreedence 13y ago

Also pay attention to shoulders. Do they slightly turn towards you? Somewhat open to meeting you. Do they turn towards you completely? Probably sick of talking to each other. Even the slightest turn away? Try another set, or be prepared to work for their attention. The body communicates so much. Once you are aware of these cues, you can read people like crazy.

benched 13y ago

I always wonder just how well body language really correlates with intention, in general. For example, whenever I'm standing in a pair or group, and somebody walks over, I always consciously reorient myself to help include the new person. But I never seem to notice other people doing the same. I think I use my body language quite consciously, but I usually get the impression that it is mostly unconscious for others. Yet, I can't really know this for sure.

TheSOB88 13y ago
Same thing with me. I feel like the only other people who do this are high school teachers (???).

DanielRibeiro 13y ago

100 times yes. This book is amazing for this[1]. You can skim it online[2], but I highly suggest getting a real copy. There are so many things to pay attention to, but one of the greatest realizations for me was that your body language can and does affect other people's, even if they are not aware of it. [1] http://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723 http://www.amazon.com/The-Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0... [2] http://www.slideshare.net/anhnguyet_hro/the-definitive-bookofbodylanguageallanbarbarapease http://www.slideshare.net/anhnguyet_hro/the-definitive-booko...