3 ms·

Seriously? A.) Use okcupid.com -- much better site. B.) I agree that match.com should probably identify which members actually are capable of responding, and i

Seriously? A.) Use okcupid.com -- much better site. B.) I agree that match.com should probably identify which members actually are capable of responding, and it might increase signup rates if it notified non-paying members when they received a response and then allowed them to see what they'd missed once they paid. But imho, online dating is inherently "humiliating and disappointing."

sielskr 17y ago
imho, online dating is inherently "humiliating and disappointing." Even if that is true, that is no reason for the design of match.com to increase the humiliation or disappointment.
- HeyLaughingBoy 17y ago
  I can see why some people find it disappointing, but why would you find it humiliating? Disclosure: I met a lot of women online (including the one I married) and generally enjoyed it, but I'm always interested in hearing other perspectives.
  - foppr 17y ago
    Hey, I don't get the humiliating part either. Why are you disclosing that you met and married a woman online?
  - benmathes 17y ago
    It's entirely likely that match.com's setup drastically reduces your response rate in a deceptive fashion. If you contact 500 people on match.com and not a single one responds, you'd probably be humiliated.
    - jambalaya 17y ago
      I wasn't humiliated from 1 date in 6 months with Match.com. I was humiliated briefly with eHarmony when I fell for a fake letter of interest. I was very excited and I emailed all my friends "Hey look this is great!" Then I slowly realized over the course of the week that I had been duped. I received no further response and was embarrassed. It should have been obvious with the spelling mistakes and the woman being listed as a High School English teacher :) I'm moving to offline approaches. I should get out more any ways. I may try okcupid or something in the future.
  - rbanffy 17y ago
    Interesting... I met my first wife online, more than 20 years ago, well before the web, over a Minitel-based chat system accessed via an Apple II (mine) and a Matra dedicated terminal (hers). I met my second wife at a party. I must be truly disconnected from my time.

sielskr 17y ago

imho, online dating is inherently "humiliating and disappointing." Even if that is true, that is no reason for the design of match.com to increase the humiliation or disappointment.

HeyLaughingBoy 17y ago
I can see why some people find it disappointing, but why would you find it humiliating? Disclosure: I met a lot of women online (including the one I married) and generally enjoyed it, but I'm always interested in hearing other perspectives.
- foppr 17y ago
  Hey, I don't get the humiliating part either. Why are you disclosing that you met and married a woman online?
- benmathes 17y ago
  It's entirely likely that match.com's setup drastically reduces your response rate in a deceptive fashion. If you contact 500 people on match.com and not a single one responds, you'd probably be humiliated.
  - jambalaya 17y ago
    I wasn't humiliated from 1 date in 6 months with Match.com. I was humiliated briefly with eHarmony when I fell for a fake letter of interest. I was very excited and I emailed all my friends "Hey look this is great!" Then I slowly realized over the course of the week that I had been duped. I received no further response and was embarrassed. It should have been obvious with the spelling mistakes and the woman being listed as a High School English teacher :) I'm moving to offline approaches. I should get out more any ways. I may try okcupid or something in the future.
- rbanffy 17y ago
  Interesting... I met my first wife online, more than 20 years ago, well before the web, over a Minitel-based chat system accessed via an Apple II (mine) and a Matra dedicated terminal (hers). I met my second wife at a party. I must be truly disconnected from my time.