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Three cheers for you, my friend. No one knows the loneliness of being Dad like Dad, and you did an excellent job of articulating it. Doing the right thing as a
by padobson 13y ago
Three cheers for you, my friend. No one knows the loneliness of being Dad like Dad, and you did an excellent job of articulating it.
Doing the right thing as a parent often goes un-celebrated, un-thanked, and most certainly un-paid. This is one of the great failures of our society, and the main reason there are so many fatherless children out there.
If two people are going to make another person, then at the very least they need to continually communicate what their roles are in raising that person and, maybe more importantly, support and encourage one another in those roles - BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE IS GOING TO.
- chernevik 13y agoThank you, and I think what you say is true. Just bc I don't want to toot my own horn: I am not saying the marriage didn't fail bc I over-emphasized being Dad. I am saying that what I did do as Dad, didn't get the respect I thought it might. Also: I didn't do parent for the respect, and I could have fixed a lot of mistakes without being less of a Dad.
- Zimahl 13y agoWell, we certainly live in a very weird time. There's a level of expectation of dads now that there wasn't for my dad. There is now an expectation of 50/50 in raising children even with stay-at-home moms. That means cooking, cleaning, laundry, entertainment, etc., falls on the dad a lot. Whereas even 30 years ago this certainly wasn't the case. My father was a good dad but certainly didn't clean anything other than the garage. He didn't bathe any of us kids or tuck us in. He sure as hell didn't buy groceries. What he did do it kept the yard clean, the roof clear, the garden growing, the cars running, and coached baseball. I think too many dads these days are too busy being mom #2. And women think that's what they want but in reality it emasculates their husband in their eyes.