While the rest of the article has some really great points, what I really love about this is all in the beginning and is perfectly summed up with this quote by

While the rest of the article has some really great points, what I really love about this is all in the beginning and is perfectly summed up with this quote by Professor Daniel H. Cohen (in which he is conceding victory to a hypothetical opponent): > "So who won that argument? Well, the war metaphor seems to force us into saying you won, even though I’m the only one who made any cognitive gain." I've been practicing something similar for at least half a decade now. I call it (with a strong sense of irony), "I'm Always Right." By learning how to be wrong ALL THE TIME, I'm actually becoming increasingly ALWAYS RIGHT. The hardest part is being able to see when somebody else is actually making a better point than I am.[1] Then I 'lose' the argument by agreeing with them. In the bigger scheme of things, I've actually won because I've just gained something - new knowledge and a new point of view. My intellectual 'opponent' has gained nothing but a temporary feeling of victory. I'm actually happy for both of us. This isn't some trick. I really do change my mind about things all the time as I learn more and listen more. After a while, being wrong feels so right. :-) [1] The REAL challenge is to recognize this EVEN if you are actually doing a much better job of debating (or think you are) than your 'opponent'.