When I argue about things with similarly-minded friends, we all win all the time -- the aim is never to make the other person agree with yourself, but for both

When I argue about things with similarly-minded friends, we all win all the time -- the aim is never to make the other person agree with yourself, but for both parties to agree on what's correct (which is sometimes what you think, sometimes what they think, and sometimes a third thing entirely). It's a shame that my "similarly-minded friends list" is in the single digits :( (It's not even that most people are stubborn and loud - quite the opposite - it's that they interpret constructive criticism (sometimes even neutral discussion) as conflict and shy away from it)