I find to avoid the negative reaction, you can use "becoming". Instead of saying "I'm a lovable person" use "I'm becoming a lovable person" And also instead of

I find to avoid the negative reaction, you can use "becoming". Instead of saying "I'm a lovable person" use "I'm becoming a lovable person" And also instead of using adjectives, use something that goes for identity, instead of, "I'm becoming charming" use "I'm becoming a charmer"