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I want to bring health and wellness to the world. I'm working my way towards that. It's pretty ambitious. Learning how to not always feel the weight on my shoul

by loceng 13y ago

I want to bring health and wellness to the world. I'm working my way towards that. It's pretty ambitious. Learning how to not always feel the weight on my shoulders and chest though.

saraid216 13y ago
> Learning how to not always feel the weight on my shoulders and chest though. I want to give you advice on how to do that, but because it's so hard to tell what the recipe for success actually is, I hesitate for fear that the advice would end up being counterproductive. So, for what it's worth, and with a grain of salt: I've found that the pattern that is functional for me is a cyclical manic-depression. I come up with new ideas, expend energy on them, spinning up projects and pouring out thoughts and insights, and then I collapse into an emotional death spiral and am forced to spend effort on self-improvement of various kinds before going into another burst of creative energy. The length of the cycles vary tremendously.
- loceng 13y ago
  This sounds about right. Though I've gone through enough self-improvement cycles that my "emotional death spiral" aren't as drastic now - mind you, they still suck and do contrast strongly the feeling and productivity when in the creative energy bursts. The more pieces of life I have figured out the better too. I almost found a permanent counter-balance, a woman, who I thought would end up inspiring me permanently - though that opportunity never ended up not being possible.
  - saraid216 13y ago
    > I almost found a permanent counter-balance, a woman, who I thought would end up inspiring me permanently - though that opportunity never ended up not being possible. I've been in this trap before; it's a bad idea. A support network is critically important, but don't put a lover on a pedestal to act as your muse. It's murder for a healthy relationship.
    - loceng 13y ago
      Nope, I realize that. It wasn't meant for that - it would have just been inspiring enough or rather elevating to have found someone I could start to build deep trust with, but I don't absolutely need that. For now I'm just focusing on building better friendships and relationships in general. Just the thought of having someone I can fully confide into - business wise or otherwise - is appealing.
bjelkeman-again 13y ago
YMMV but realising that you can't possibly do it alone is one good step. Then getting a good team around you to work on it together. Finally, don't look at the top of the mountain all the time, look behind you and see all the good things you have achieved. Check where the top of the mountain is occasionally to make sure you don't stray from the chosen path. But if you keep staring at it you'll never get there.
- loceng 13y ago
  Good advice, and hard to remember when so focused at times. Looking behind me at the good things achieved usually happens when I am in a down cycle of being slightly burned out or demotivated. Something I should work on doing more regularly.

by loceng 13y ago

I want to bring health and wellness to the world. I'm working my way towards that. It's pretty ambitious. Learning how to not always feel the weight on my shoulders and chest though.

saraid216 13y ago

> Learning how to not always feel the weight on my shoulders and chest though. I want to give you advice on how to do that, but because it's so hard to tell what the recipe for success actually is, I hesitate for fear that the advice would end up being counterproductive. So, for what it's worth, and with a grain of salt: I've found that the pattern that is functional for me is a cyclical manic-depression. I come up with new ideas, expend energy on them, spinning up projects and pouring out thoughts and insights, and then I collapse into an emotional death spiral and am forced to spend effort on self-improvement of various kinds before going into another burst of creative energy. The length of the cycles vary tremendously.

loceng 13y ago
This sounds about right. Though I've gone through enough self-improvement cycles that my "emotional death spiral" aren't as drastic now - mind you, they still suck and do contrast strongly the feeling and productivity when in the creative energy bursts. The more pieces of life I have figured out the better too. I almost found a permanent counter-balance, a woman, who I thought would end up inspiring me permanently - though that opportunity never ended up not being possible.
- saraid216 13y ago
  > I almost found a permanent counter-balance, a woman, who I thought would end up inspiring me permanently - though that opportunity never ended up not being possible. I've been in this trap before; it's a bad idea. A support network is critically important, but don't put a lover on a pedestal to act as your muse. It's murder for a healthy relationship.
  - loceng 13y ago
    Nope, I realize that. It wasn't meant for that - it would have just been inspiring enough or rather elevating to have found someone I could start to build deep trust with, but I don't absolutely need that. For now I'm just focusing on building better friendships and relationships in general. Just the thought of having someone I can fully confide into - business wise or otherwise - is appealing.

bjelkeman-again 13y ago

YMMV but realising that you can't possibly do it alone is one good step. Then getting a good team around you to work on it together. Finally, don't look at the top of the mountain all the time, look behind you and see all the good things you have achieved. Check where the top of the mountain is occasionally to make sure you don't stray from the chosen path. But if you keep staring at it you'll never get there.

loceng 13y ago
Good advice, and hard to remember when so focused at times. Looking behind me at the good things achieved usually happens when I am in a down cycle of being slightly burned out or demotivated. Something I should work on doing more regularly.