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A million times "no." There is essentially zero chance that the potential employer will be in a frame of mind to evaluate your situation with anything resembli
by bonemachine 13y ago
A million times "no."
There is essentially zero chance that the potential employer will be in a frame of mind to evaluate your situation with anything resembling the degree of compassion or understanding you're looking for.
If anything they'll be hyper-attuned towards filtering out against: (1) unknowns and (2) risk. Your situation screams both (1)+(2), at very high volume. And even if they do hire you, most likely they'll have you in a "box" mentally, and see you as someone with high flight risk / limited growth potential.
As an alternative... perhaps you can see your next job as a an "escape" form your emotional condition. Perhaps as a kind of a role-playing game as it were. As in:
I'm just here for the paycheck, the routine, and the stability. I don't need these people as an emotional support network. Also, I'm confident enough that I can put on a different "hat" for 8 hours a day. Then deal with my internal situation in my spare time, on my own terms.
Also, you might be pleasantly surprise at what the change in scenery and daily routine does for your internal state. There's a lot[1] of neurophysiological research being done of late to the effect that putting ourselves "through the motions", e.g. smiling at others, being kind and helpful to them; and, when they ask that dreaded question -- "How are you?" -- answering with: "Nice of you to ask! I'm great! How are you!" even though we know they don't really mean it -- that these kinds of habits actually do end up, over time, influencing one's internal state in a positive way.
[1] no references handy -- but I'm pretty sure I've seen quite a few; and it fits my observations of my own mental state and of that of others close to me in this life, generally.
- Peroni 13y agoWhilst I agree entirely in the context of potential employers, I don't necessarily agree in the context of your current employer. The entire topic of depression in tech is something that needs infinitely more publicity and support than it currently gets. If you want to see an absolutely phenomenal talk on Developers & Depression then I couldn't recommend this highly enough: http://programme2013.scottishrubyconference.com/proposals/86/video http://programme2013.scottishrubyconference.com/proposals/86...
- bonemachine 13y agoAgreed, current employer = very different scenario. The original question seemed to refer to potential employers, so that's what I was addressing.