This is me too. I wouldn't be surprised if it's mostly a case of being praised for ability rather than effort. Apparently this creates an environment of fear of

This is me too. I wouldn't be surprised if it's mostly a case of being praised for ability rather than effort. Apparently this creates an environment of fear of failure and a sort of "if I don't try it doesn't matter" attitude. I make sure to always tray and praise my kids for trying hard rather than being smart now.