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Here here. It's a gross abuse of privacy posting pictures of your children online. Unfortunately many parents seem not to stop to think of the possible ramifica
by retube 13y ago
Here here. It's a gross abuse of privacy posting pictures of your children online. Unfortunately many parents seem not to stop to think of the possible ramifications a few years down the line.
- scotty79 13y agoMain ramification of oversharing is that their kid will be just like everybody else. For example I have total privacy. I have no photos from my early childhood. None. How do you think I feel when I know that all other people have some or lots? I feel like I haven't existed back then at all. Like I popped into existence at age 6 or something. Or that I was too ugly, or too plain to photograph. How will a kid feel that has no published photos of her/him online? He might think that he was ugly or unremarkable and parents were just ashamed of her/him or that parents hoped he'll die so why introduce kid to the public or that they just hated her/him?
- darklajid 13y agoErm.. What's the connection between 'no photos online' and 'no photos'? I guess no one is arguing that parents shouldn't take pictures/videos of their kids. Keep them, just like parents for our generation did (I assume 79 is your year of birth) in a private place. If the kids want to have those later: Sure, these pictures are theirs to begin with. Take pictures, if you want. Store them locally or .. print them out. Your personal lack of pictures is a different thing and not connected to the point here - although I guess it helps understanding your 'pro sharing' comments.
- scotty79 13y ago> What's the connection between 'no photos online' and 'no photos'? If I have no photos, then none can be posted online - event better guarantee that they won't ever be posted online without my consent. But you are not asking, rather saying that those are not the same thing. Yes. They are not. I used it as just an analogy. 10 years from now might be as weird to be kid with no early childhood photos online as today it is to be the kid with no photos at all.
- darklajid 13y agoI'm not trying to offend/attack here, but I still miss the point. IF in ten years everyone has pictures online and due to some weird shift of culture and perception that is normal, everyone else is weird: Let your kids post their pictures. When they're old enough to decide that for themselves. That's why I argued that you certainly can have pictures of your kids and arguably should. For yourself and your mature/adult kids.
- scotty79 13y ago> Let your kids post their pictures. When they're old enough to decide that for themselves. Posting all your own childhood photos might also be perceived as weird in the future (isn't it now?). Personally I believe our children and grandchildren will live in much more transparent times. I think they should feel good with transparency and demand transparency. Hiding them from the world goes in exactly opposite direction.
- darklajid 13y agoI guess we have to disagree in the end. Transparency is important - in public. The government, work, politics in general should be transparent. But using transparency as a reason to kill any notion of privacy (because that's what "not posting pictures of my kid" is about) is a strange point to make. There's no reason at all for someone on the internet to ask about 'transparency' regarding the daily life of my family, my children. That'd be an utterly ridiculous demand to make. My sex life isn't 'transparent' in that way either.
- scotty79 13y ago> I guess we have to disagree in the end. I'm always up for that. I'm not saying that private lives should be transparent. Only that they will be. Therefore I believe that kids comfortable with over-sharing will have easier lives, psychologically. I think we are one of the last generations that believe privacy to be natural state. I think our grandchildren will be absolutely devastated when they find out that because of some technical glitch there's no recording of the event they just experienced semi-privately.
- vacri 13y agoDo you say the same thing of people who post photos of social events that you attended; that they've grossly abused your privacy?