The sort of victim blaming attitude shown by their comments helps to perpetuate social constructs that enable a substantial amount of physical harm. Additional

The sort of victim blaming attitude shown by their comments helps to perpetuate social constructs that enable a substantial amount of physical harm. Additionally, "they hadn't said no" is not a justification for putting your hand inside somebody's trousers. Trying to paint an obvious failure of basic consent as ambiguous is, to my mind, at the very least "maybe she was asking for it", which I find no less unpleasant. As such, I think perhaps our definitions of "civilised" differ.