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She probably gets along great with her male colleagues. But if she is straight (I don't know if she is), and she was with a straight, male colleague after work,
by scott_s 13y ago
She probably gets along great with her male colleagues. But if she is straight (I don't know if she is), and she was with a straight, male colleague after work, and spent "the night writing code together", there would probably be at least some romantic tension.
At work, it's possible to have none, because everyone is a professional and we all understand the boundaries. But once you're electing to spend time with a person outside of work hours, then it can become ambiguous, and one party may feel compelled to say "By the way, this isn't a date...". If she is straight, and she is spending time with a straight female colleague, then that tension is not present at all.
When you're a straight guy, working almost exclusively with straight guys, then this doesn't have to enter your thinking.
- Dewie 13y agoThis is real life we're talking about, not a romantic comedy.
- scott_s 13y agoI don't see how what I described has anything to do with a romantic comedy. I think it's completely reasonable that women may not feel immediately comfortable spending after-work time with male colleagues. But, with a fellow female colleague, there is no ambiguity.
- Dewie 13y ago> I think it's completely reasonable that women may not feel immediately comfortable spending after-work time with male colleagues. Yes, that might be the case for a lot of women. In Saudi Arabia.