My typical experience is pick one or two of: A) Message gets ignored, no response B) Other people respond with the same problem, no solutions C) Unhelpful re

My typical experience is pick one or two of: A) Message gets ignored, no response B) Other people respond with the same problem, no solutions C) Unhelpful response detailing the solution to some superficially similar but unrelated problem D) Excoriating reply about how that is not really a problem because I am bad at life and/or not supposed to be using it for that. E) Discussion pace on the topic rapidly log-descent-curves into zero without anything really being resolved but lots of time being spent. F) Discussion on the mailing list is so high volume that trying to pay attention to it is akin to drinking from a firehose, and a solution is posted in an unobtrusive way 330 messages later. This is even true when attempting to make meaningful contributions of time and energy, money, or both.