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Thanks for your feedback! Great point about the most efficient way to meet a partner! This is indeed a great question one should ask oneself. I see a problem w

Thanks for your feedback! Great point about the most efficient way to meet a partner! This is indeed a great question one should ask oneself. I see a problem with that approach though: I guess many people don't want to mix 'efficiency' with dating and human interactions and emotions too much. It's probably socially accepted to use dating sites, but are we already on our way to rethink our entire approach to dating? The expression of interest is indeed a good concept to hang on to. Which is why social networks are especially suitable for adding dating - you can add a simple "are you open to dating approaches?"-setting.

heed 17y ago
Like TrevorJ said, meeting people through a circle of friends may not be the best method for landing a date, but it could help to relieve the lingering stigmas of online dating. I know many people that still frown upon and feel uneasy about digital hookups. It might be useful to investigate ways of reaching these people. Maybe like a dating site in disguise?
- dave_au 17y ago
  Or they could just lie about it: http://www.flickr.com/photos/fuffer2005/3216972462/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/fuffer2005/3216972462/
TrevorJ 17y ago
Agreed. In fact, I think getting 6 pages of profile to look through to try to find somebody you may want to contact on a dating site is counterproductive and probably frustrates people a lot. At first I thought that maybe your idea subverts the role of the intermediate players in our lives. (The people who go "Hey, I know this person you should me, let me introduce you.") But what if you actually allowed that to happen in the social 'net? Do you think it would be handy if you could anonymously suggest to friend A and Friend B that they connect if they don't know each other?
- dsplittgerber 17y ago
  Good questions. What value do intermediate players provide? Is it in them playing cupid or is it in them being a trustee? Why do people who are introduced to each other go along and talk to the other one - is it because they are interested in a stranger or because they trust the intermediate player? I tend to think it's the latter which is why anonymous suggestions may not work. What do you think?
  - TrevorJ 17y ago
    Hmm, good question. If you knew it was through a mutual friend it could still work, but maybe it should not be anonymous.

heed 17y ago

Like TrevorJ said, meeting people through a circle of friends may not be the best method for landing a date, but it could help to relieve the lingering stigmas of online dating. I know many people that still frown upon and feel uneasy about digital hookups. It might be useful to investigate ways of reaching these people. Maybe like a dating site in disguise?

dave_au 17y ago
Or they could just lie about it: http://www.flickr.com/photos/fuffer2005/3216972462/ http://www.flickr.com/photos/fuffer2005/3216972462/

TrevorJ 17y ago

Agreed. In fact, I think getting 6 pages of profile to look through to try to find somebody you may want to contact on a dating site is counterproductive and probably frustrates people a lot. At first I thought that maybe your idea subverts the role of the intermediate players in our lives. (The people who go "Hey, I know this person you should me, let me introduce you.") But what if you actually allowed that to happen in the social 'net? Do you think it would be handy if you could anonymously suggest to friend A and Friend B that they connect if they don't know each other?

dsplittgerber 17y ago
Good questions. What value do intermediate players provide? Is it in them playing cupid or is it in them being a trustee? Why do people who are introduced to each other go along and talk to the other one - is it because they are interested in a stranger or because they trust the intermediate player? I tend to think it's the latter which is why anonymous suggestions may not work. What do you think?
- TrevorJ 17y ago
  Hmm, good question. If you knew it was through a mutual friend it could still work, but maybe it should not be anonymous.