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While I like the ideas (and I liked them even more the first time I read 4HWW), the real lesson I gained from my first, and second, attempt at lifestyle design
by jared314 13y ago
While I like the ideas (and I liked them even more the first time I read 4HWW), the real lesson I gained from my first, and second, attempt at lifestyle design is: either succeed alone or find better friends. Nothing kills enthusiasm and momentum like your entire social circle dismissing your efforts as a fool's errand.
- Swizec 13y agoIt's a defence mechanism. Actively improving yourself makes the rest of the group look and feel bad [because they aren't]. They don't like those negative emotions, so they try to equalize. But it's much easier to equalize you to them, than themselves to you. So they make fun. They passively bring down your efforts. They're much too nice to do it actively. And provide plenty of excuses for you to fall off the wagon. BUT! This is also a test of your resolve. If you can't do something against your friends' and family's will, how do you know you actually want to do it? At least that's how I look at it. If I'm not confident enough in my choices that they would stand up to the scrutiny of my friends and family, then my choices need some more polish.
- sliverstorm 13y agoIt's a defence mechanism. Or it could be that they've seen the same song & dance before, and remember how it turned out.