I'm guessing that it was likely that he wouldn't have spelled out in detail his exact financial situation to them. If you were his child all you'd probably hav

I'm guessing that it was likely that he wouldn't have spelled out in detail his exact financial situation to them. If you were his child all you'd probably have seen was that he sold his house and offered to help you get on the property ladder with some of the money he released. If that happens and you believe that he's got other savings then that's a very different situation to be presented with than the idea that you're messing up his retirement. But even if that weren't the case it would surely be a failing on their part rather than on his?