As someone born and raised in the South and now an SF resident, you will find that the South is often very structured and conservative. SF != South, by almost a

As someone born and raised in the South and now an SF resident, you will find that the South is often very structured and conservative. SF != South, by almost any measure. That said, you're comparing apples to oranges, somewhat, too. A small-to-mid-sized metro area compared to SF is very different. I think the characteristics you listed to describe SF are popular in NYC, as well.