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The website she referred to had a series of essays they dubbed “It Happened To Me” that they sprinkled in amongst feminist-leaning news and features. “I want to

The website she referred to had a series of essays they dubbed “It Happened To Me” that they sprinkled in amongst feminist-leaning news and features. “I want to talk about how all of this makes me feel. You, all over the Internet, right after you dumped me.” Does that seem bizarrely self absorbed to anyone else?

jdmichal 13y ago
Of course it is, but I don't think it's possible to write about yourself without being self-absorbed. Personally, I think it's an interesting story idea from a perspective that I never would have thought about before.
victorf 13y ago
I'm sure at the time it seemed like the world was conspiring to show her this guy everywhere. I would have complained about it too, albeit privately, and then probably felt like a pompous douchebag after reading how he felt.
crystaln 13y ago
That seems appropriate for a column called "it happened to me". And wait, you're surprised a human, in media, is self absorbed? That seems bizarrely self absorbed.
kohanz 13y ago
Aren't most people self-absorbed for a period of time, post-breakup? It may be a self-defense or healing mechanism, of sorts.
benched 13y ago
I can definitely relate to the feeling. For a full 1.5 years after my ex and I broke up, it felt like my friends were being deliberately cruel, first by continuing to involve her in various events, then by continuously posting about stuff they were doing with her on facebook. For a long time, it felt like they were actively trying to push me out of the picture or drive me to jump. The only difference is, this woman wrote an article about how that feels.
- eshvk 13y ago
  Maybe these people you call your friends are not really your friends? For if something is affecting you, they should be able to be considerate of your feelings too. Just a thought.
- InclinedPlane 13y ago
  Did you do things with your friends too during that time? Maybe it's just that for them it's less awkward to hang out with either one of you than it is for you two to hang out with each other, and they didn't realize that talking about it on facebook would be awkward for you. Don't you think it would be a bit demanding on your part if you wanted your friends to stop hanging out with and being friends with your ex? Maybe you should figure out how to get closure on your relationship and move forward in a healthy manner rather than hoping that the rest of the world will coddle and protect a wound that only you could possibly understand or be responsible for.
MaysonL 13y ago
Then again, imagine if it happened to you, and all of your friends were continually reminding you of it, forwarding you more and more tumblogs where the meme was propagating, commiserating, condemning your ex, etc., et bloody cetera. It'd make almost anyone feel somewhat strange.
diydsp 13y ago
Yes. And passive-aggressive, since she welched on the deal by not letting him read it before press.

jdmichal 13y ago

Of course it is, but I don't think it's possible to write about yourself without being self-absorbed. Personally, I think it's an interesting story idea from a perspective that I never would have thought about before.

victorf 13y ago

I'm sure at the time it seemed like the world was conspiring to show her this guy everywhere. I would have complained about it too, albeit privately, and then probably felt like a pompous douchebag after reading how he felt.

crystaln 13y ago

That seems appropriate for a column called "it happened to me". And wait, you're surprised a human, in media, is self absorbed? That seems bizarrely self absorbed.

kohanz 13y ago

Aren't most people self-absorbed for a period of time, post-breakup? It may be a self-defense or healing mechanism, of sorts.

benched 13y ago

I can definitely relate to the feeling. For a full 1.5 years after my ex and I broke up, it felt like my friends were being deliberately cruel, first by continuing to involve her in various events, then by continuously posting about stuff they were doing with her on facebook. For a long time, it felt like they were actively trying to push me out of the picture or drive me to jump. The only difference is, this woman wrote an article about how that feels.

eshvk 13y ago
Maybe these people you call your friends are not really your friends? For if something is affecting you, they should be able to be considerate of your feelings too. Just a thought.
InclinedPlane 13y ago
Did you do things with your friends too during that time? Maybe it's just that for them it's less awkward to hang out with either one of you than it is for you two to hang out with each other, and they didn't realize that talking about it on facebook would be awkward for you. Don't you think it would be a bit demanding on your part if you wanted your friends to stop hanging out with and being friends with your ex? Maybe you should figure out how to get closure on your relationship and move forward in a healthy manner rather than hoping that the rest of the world will coddle and protect a wound that only you could possibly understand or be responsible for.

MaysonL 13y ago

Then again, imagine if it happened to you, and all of your friends were continually reminding you of it, forwarding you more and more tumblogs where the meme was propagating, commiserating, condemning your ex, etc., et bloody cetera. It'd make almost anyone feel somewhat strange.

diydsp 13y ago

Yes. And passive-aggressive, since she welched on the deal by not letting him read it before press.