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“Facebook exposes everything and nothing about you at the same time, whereas with Chatroulette you can hide behind the nonentity of it. It’s that kind of danger
by jsnk 13y ago
“Facebook exposes everything and nothing about you at the same time, whereas with Chatroulette you can hide behind the nonentity of it. It’s that kind of danger that’s necessary for honest conversation.”
I think this quote nails the problem of Facebook. Facebook pushes social interaction further away from genuineness and honest discourse we long for. Posting pictures, statuses, etc are carefully constructed user activities to fish for "likes" or "comments". It just seems frivolous and fake. Facebook tries so hard not to be seen this way. If you watch some videos previously released by Facebook introducing Timeline and stuff, they try so hard to be like the real photo album filled with photos taken with 35mm camera you and your family kept for decades. If this is what they are striving for, why do they still attempt to reduce human response to a "like".
Sure, this is not just a problem of Facebook. Even in real life, it is hard to make real connection with people. But at least in real life, there's some level of spontaneity. We can't always think ahead about what we are going to say or how we are going to react to the interlocuteur which brings out some genuineness in human interaction. Making meaningful lasting connection in real life is hard as is. Facebook push a person further down into the trenches of disguises and fakeries in dealing with people.
Just today, I wrote about why it's difficult to have an honest opinion about something online. (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6386647 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6386647) As a response to the problem, I created Dmtri (http://dmtri.com/ http://dmtri.com/). I hope HN users check it out. Feel free to comment what you think about it.
- scott_s 13y agoOf course I want responses if I post a picture on Facebook. It's exactly the same when I show a picture to a friend out in the world: I want a response. I have something I want to share. This desire does not become magically "bad" just because it happens online. I have family and friends who live far away. I don't have the opportunity to visit them as much as I would like. If it was not for Facebook, I wouldn't see these pictures, or find out about events. The obvious counter to this is, "You would probably visit them more." I do not think that is true. Because I am able to find out what is going on with them on a regular basis, they stay in my mind, and I miss them more, and I want to go visit. I think that without Facebook and the ease through which I can maintain connections, these relationships would fade. And the obvious response to that is that the relationships weren't that strong to begin with, which I also don't think is true. Maintaining friendships over distance can be awkward for people who don't have a history of talking on the phone, or expressing themselves through text. Spending an inordinate amount of time on Facebook is bad. But this notion that using it at all is bad seems silly to me. People used to say similar things about phones.
- smrtinsert 13y agopeople will have masks its just human nature.