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I did not grow up with any sort of crazy parent situation but I imagine I am not unique in the fact that if I asked my mother to "please stop screaming", I woul
by hackula1 13y ago
I did not grow up with any sort of crazy parent situation but I imagine I am not unique in the fact that if I asked my mother to "please stop screaming", I would have received about 20 more minutes of screaming + a wooden spoon. I really like the idea of teaching EQ, however, I agree that the example you point to is entirely unrealistic.
- kordless 13y ago> received about 20 more minutes of screaming + a wooden spoon That doesn't sound normal to me...
- ByronT 13y agoBut hey, free wooden spoon!
- nitrogen 13y agoNot so useful if it's broken in the process...
- eruditely 13y agoThis should sound normal if live anywhere with a significant immigrant community, and if you do you probably just aren't listening.
- hackula1 13y agoOne more reminder that normal is different for everyone I suppose. Talking back is a cardinal sin in the south. It is not how I will raise my kids, but my parents even grew up with corporal punishment in catholic school, so I don't really blame them.
- superuser2 13y agoThis is one of the problems with teaching emotional intelligence. It's subjective, and most people feel very strongly that they way they were raised was the (only) right way. From my perspective (and probably that of most psychology and behavioral science researchers) that behavior on the part of your mother is unhealthy and not to be tolerated. You are also unlikely to find support among academic for the notion that a grown woman's inability to control her emotions justifies inflicting severe pain on an largely helpless child. (There is some research supporting spanking, but almost never out condoning spanking while upset.)