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This is a learning moment for you, Mr stefantalpalaru. What you've just said, although I know you meant it sanely and sensibly, has been interpreted as lacking
by etfb 13y ago
This is a learning moment for you, Mr stefantalpalaru. What you've just said, although I know you meant it sanely and sensibly, has been interpreted as lacking in compassion. This is not your fault; what happened is you have made a comment from a position of unrecognised privilege. For your own good, and the good of any women you may have any kind of relationship with now and into the future, it would be a very good idea for you to read up on the concept of privilege, with an open mind. You will find it uncomfortable, and you will probably prefer to fight back rather than acknowledge a flaw in yourself, but in the long run it will prove to be the best thing to do, and you'll be glad you did.
Best wishes, and good luck!
- lmartel 13y agoPoe's law in action. I have legitimately no idea whether this is mean-spirited satire or earnest bullshit. If you are NOT being sarcastic: there are productive ways to talk about these (important) issues, be it gender, race, whatever--but this sort of "privilege" circlejerk is a huge waste of time as well as hugely condescending. If you have a point to make then make it. Sitting around in a Privilege Circle saying "oh, no, I'm worse, you're white but I'm straight" is slacktivist bullshit at its worst.
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- Pinatubo 13y agoIf your goal is to increase the acceptance of women in the tech community, this post is very counterproductive.
- etfb 13y agoNot at all! My goal is to respond to someone who is unkind with something close to kindness. If he goes on the way he has been, he'll do himself as much damage as he does to the people around him. The reasonable response to that sort of privileged blindness is anger; I was aiming for something a little more compassionate. You, however, don't get the same consideration, because I strongly suspect you're a pillock.
- hacker789 13y agoIt's probably safe to assume that you're parodying the nakedly Orwellian nature of third-wave feminists, but I'm going to respond just in case this is a serious post. This use of "privilege" as a targeted weapon to silence specific demographics has to stop. Women in the western world have always been among the safest, most privileged people on Earth. This entire thread, in fact, has been a shining example of female privilege. No one cares that women soundly outnumber men in university admission, and university graduation, and even high school graduation. Heck, no one cares that it is men who overwhelmingly make up the bottom of society. Instead, we're having a collective anxiety attack because a hyper-privileged white woman is upset that her hyper-privileged white daughter might have had her feelings hurt in high school. This is surreal.
- ArtDev 13y agoAnother apologist on HN, what a surprise.. Let me guess.. you are a white male. Nice. So am I. We have no idea what its like.. Gender equality in America has come a long way. However, there are still many occupations and places in America where equality is not the norm at all. The best example of an occupation where women are not welcome is the military. The best example of inequality in the courts is this recent case: http://techcrunch.com/2013/06/09/hacker-faces-more-jail-time-than-the-convicted-steubenville-rapists-he-exposed/ http://techcrunch.com/2013/06/09/hacker-faces-more-jail-time... Inequality is all around us.
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- etfb 13y agoOh dear. No help for you either, is there?
- SideburnsOfDoom 13y agoFor reference, hacker789 repeated this comment here https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6360113 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=6360113 where it attracted more attention.