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My experience in the professional world is that its full of assertive, aggressive individuals men and women included. There are only so many slots at the top an

by nsfyn55 13y ago

My experience in the professional world is that its full of assertive, aggressive individuals men and women included. There are only so many slots at the top and the ones not occupied by the CEO's nephew belong to thick skinned individuals who have endured a careers worth of mental/emotional abuse. How many times have your heard someone utter the words "My boss/colleague/lead is an idiot." Is it a disservice to create these mushy teeball environments where everyone gets to be an astronaut?

daxelrod 13y ago
I understand that you're advocating for helping people develop a thick skin. Where I take objection is when you start talking about abuse. There's enough other kinds of adversity out there to be resilient against. > My experience in the professional world is that its full of assertive, aggressive individuals men and women included. It's possible to be assertive and aggressive without being abusive. > There are only so many slots at the top Not everyone wants to get to the "top". > Is it a disservice to create these mushy teeball environments They certainly sound better than environments full of mental/emotional abuse. Why can't we create abuse-free environments in the real world, too?
- nsfyn55 13y ago
  Obviously I use the term "abuse" facetiously. However, no one buys the memiore about the individual that coasted into prosperity with the love and support of everyone around them. > Not everyone wants to get to the "top" sure, but how about you let them make that decision rather than taking the liberty of handicapping them in advance. >They certainly sound better than environments full of mental/emotional abuse. Why can't we create abuse-free environments in the real world, too? Sure but they will need to compete against the environments filled with vicious, agogi-bred cutthroats who are there by choice.
racl101 13y ago
I agree. You can't protect kids from each and every threat. you cannot fight their battles for them all the time. But what you can do is prepare them with the confidence and the knowledge to begin fighting. At some point your kid needs to build character by encountering adversaries. The boys telling the girl to make sammiches are one of many that she'll encounter in life.

by nsfyn55 13y ago

daxelrod 13y ago

I understand that you're advocating for helping people develop a thick skin. Where I take objection is when you start talking about abuse. There's enough other kinds of adversity out there to be resilient against. > My experience in the professional world is that its full of assertive, aggressive individuals men and women included. It's possible to be assertive and aggressive without being abusive. > There are only so many slots at the top Not everyone wants to get to the "top". > Is it a disservice to create these mushy teeball environments They certainly sound better than environments full of mental/emotional abuse. Why can't we create abuse-free environments in the real world, too?

nsfyn55 13y ago
Obviously I use the term "abuse" facetiously. However, no one buys the memiore about the individual that coasted into prosperity with the love and support of everyone around them. > Not everyone wants to get to the "top" sure, but how about you let them make that decision rather than taking the liberty of handicapping them in advance. >They certainly sound better than environments full of mental/emotional abuse. Why can't we create abuse-free environments in the real world, too? Sure but they will need to compete against the environments filled with vicious, agogi-bred cutthroats who are there by choice.

racl101 13y ago

I agree. You can't protect kids from each and every threat. you cannot fight their battles for them all the time. But what you can do is prepare them with the confidence and the knowledge to begin fighting. At some point your kid needs to build character by encountering adversaries. The boys telling the girl to make sammiches are one of many that she'll encounter in life.