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EDIT Seems like people generally are agreeing with my interpretation. I am rewriting my comment. First, it seems to me that she simply told her daughters wha

by yeukhon 13y ago

EDIT Seems like people generally are agreeing with my interpretation. I am rewriting my comment. First, it seems to me that she simply told her daughters what she could do. When her daughter said no the mother just left it to her daughter to deal with. After the semester is over, she's publicly denouncing the teacher. So this is a little bit wrong because she could correct the issue by letting the teacher know the problem when it first occurred. Let's not really speculating whether the teacher is old, simply doesn't care, sexist or what not. The daughter still got A. According to the mother, she assumed this was due to her daughter's long-term involvement with technology. I am sure she is a bright girl too. ' So can we just say there are two possibilities: (1) the girl had hidden her sad face when she was in her classroom and since she did her homework and continued to excel on her quizzes and exams, the teacher didn't notice much (2) the girl did show her sad face but the teacher failed to acknowledge that sign If #1 were to be true, then we should say the mother has a bigger responsibility here than the teacher. First of all, she did not take action. Kids are weak but they wanted to play strong so they often hide their true feelings. I think any parent should step up to help solving bully issue right away. Not in a public way to name a few kids, but work with the teacher in a very constructive way (such as bringing in more women to talk about tech industry. That's better than bringing a man in.... if you want to show women can do the job too). We don't know much about how the kid actually behaved in the classroom so we really shouldn't blame the teacher too much at the moment. What we need to realize is poor communication among the kid, the mother and the teacher. It's tough because half of the parents don't use email or they don't have time to talk to the kids or speak with the teacher reguarly. PTA is usually dead with a couple parents from time to time. So the mother should learn her mistake, help reconstruct her daughter's confident and stop making her rants public now. It's not helping. It is sort of one-side if I had to be really harsh (you can downvote me if you want), but that's how I feel as I read through the post again and again. Also, please, please, be careful when your daughter adds people she is still not very familiar with to her FB.

jessedhillon 13y ago
From TFA I suggested that she talk to you. I offered to talk to you. I offered to come talk to the class. I offered to send one of my male friends, perhaps a well-known local programmer, to go talk to the class.
- yeukhon 13y ago
  None of that said she actually did. The previous sentence said she was suggesting all these options to her daughter. edit here: "I consulted with friends — female developers — and talked to my daughter about how to handle the situation in class. I suggested that she talk to you. I offered to talk to you. I offered to come talk to the class. I offered to send one of my male friends, perhaps a well-known local programmer, to go talk to the class. Finally, my daughter decided to plow through, finish the class, and avoid all her classmates. I hate to think what less-confident girls would have done in the same situation. "
  - jessedhillon 13y ago
    Oh interesting, I did not interpret it that way but you may be right.
- jimzvz 13y ago
  It sounds like the author offered these choices to the child and not to the teacher.
  - EdgarVerona 13y ago
    Yep. If a teacher were offered to have a well known software engineer come into their class, I can promise you they'd jump on it - if for no other reason than that it'd give them a break for an hour in their otherwise insane workdays. That was the biggest hint to me that she never actually said this to the teacher himself. What public school teacher wouldn't take her up on that, ever?

by yeukhon 13y ago

jessedhillon 13y ago

From TFA I suggested that she talk to you. I offered to talk to you. I offered to come talk to the class. I offered to send one of my male friends, perhaps a well-known local programmer, to go talk to the class.

yeukhon 13y ago
None of that said she actually did. The previous sentence said she was suggesting all these options to her daughter. edit here: "I consulted with friends — female developers — and talked to my daughter about how to handle the situation in class. I suggested that she talk to you. I offered to talk to you. I offered to come talk to the class. I offered to send one of my male friends, perhaps a well-known local programmer, to go talk to the class. Finally, my daughter decided to plow through, finish the class, and avoid all her classmates. I hate to think what less-confident girls would have done in the same situation. "
- jessedhillon 13y ago
  Oh interesting, I did not interpret it that way but you may be right.
jimzvz 13y ago
It sounds like the author offered these choices to the child and not to the teacher.
- EdgarVerona 13y ago
  Yep. If a teacher were offered to have a well known software engineer come into their class, I can promise you they'd jump on it - if for no other reason than that it'd give them a break for an hour in their otherwise insane workdays. That was the biggest hint to me that she never actually said this to the teacher himself. What public school teacher wouldn't take her up on that, ever?