> but you don't have the ability to control the other person's perceptions or references, and so you don't have control over subtexts. Ah, within reason, you d

> but you don't have the ability to control the other person's perceptions or references, and so you don't have control over subtexts. Ah, within reason, you do, especially when people are as rational as we all aspire to be. Those people-skills books people recommend around here tell you how. I agree with the rest of your post though, just, you can only fix so many emotional misunderstandings before the general atmosphere goes south. Sidestepping and ignoring several insults every time you try to discuss a problem becomes very unnerving after a while. Thing is, those people usually don't notice they're doing it. When you treat them the same way you feel they treat you, they feel hurt. Well, bad months, I should stop here.