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Welcome to life. I've been wondering how the "everyone is special" and "everyone wins!" trends that people have been teaching their children would manifest. Th

by ripter 13y ago

Welcome to life. I've been wondering how the "everyone is special" and "everyone wins!" trends that people have been teaching their children would manifest. This looks like a good example. If you do anything that other people will see, some of them will criticize you. That's just life and not necessarily a bad thing. There isn't enough room for everyone to be special and winners. In order for someone to win someone else has to lose. So develop a thick skin. You are not your work. If someone is criticizing you instead of your work, then you learn to ignore them. They just want to be mean. If people are criticizing your work then you learn to pick out the real critiques so you can improve the next one.

pekk 13y ago
And we introspect on why there are not many women in this industry. I guess women should all just get a thick skin and stop thinking they are special. Because any abuse they might perceive is illusory, and their bullies are actually superior in knowledge and are justified in acting like jerks whenever they feel like it. After all, this is a meritocracy, how could it be otherwise? Whatever you get, you deserved.
- liveoneggs 13y ago
  what are you replying to?
- ripter 13y ago
  What do women have to do with my comment? My comment wasn't even about our industry, it's about creating works that other people will see. This applies to men and women equally.
- philwelch 13y ago
  I don't know where you get this sexist notion that women are delicate flowers who can't handle criticism, disagreement, or personality conflict in the workplace.
MartinCron 13y ago
Here's the thing with thick skin. Some people are, from a demonstrative physiological perspective [1], more sensitive than others. Telling people to "just develop a thick skin" is like telling a color-blind person to "just start differentiating colors better". Easy advice to give, totally useless. [1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person
pdevr 13y ago
>In order for someone to win someone else has to lose. I agree with the rest, but winning is not always a zero-sum game.

by ripter 13y ago

pekk 13y ago

And we introspect on why there are not many women in this industry. I guess women should all just get a thick skin and stop thinking they are special. Because any abuse they might perceive is illusory, and their bullies are actually superior in knowledge and are justified in acting like jerks whenever they feel like it. After all, this is a meritocracy, how could it be otherwise? Whatever you get, you deserved.

liveoneggs 13y ago
what are you replying to?
ripter 13y ago
What do women have to do with my comment? My comment wasn't even about our industry, it's about creating works that other people will see. This applies to men and women equally.
philwelch 13y ago
I don't know where you get this sexist notion that women are delicate flowers who can't handle criticism, disagreement, or personality conflict in the workplace.

MartinCron 13y ago

Here's the thing with thick skin. Some people are, from a demonstrative physiological perspective [1], more sensitive than others. Telling people to "just develop a thick skin" is like telling a color-blind person to "just start differentiating colors better". Easy advice to give, totally useless. [1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Highly_sensitive_person

pdevr 13y ago

>In order for someone to win someone else has to lose. I agree with the rest, but winning is not always a zero-sum game.