Thanks for posting this! Was looking for it but couldn't find the link. Josh Rehman's comment there is also pretty good: > This is a great example of what I ca

Thanks for posting this! Was looking for it but couldn't find the link. Josh Rehman's comment there is also pretty good: > This is a great example of what I call "petty injustice". The sheer volume of petty injustice causes far more net harm than "great injustice" but because it happens incrementally it is incredibly hard to combat for precisely the reasons you anecdotally state. > When someone tells you to lighten up, have a script ready. Something like, "What you just said was one small example in a long-standing pattern of subtle discrimination that I've had to endure for years. In that context, it is not okay for you to tell me to lighten up."