>"If you stop looking for gender obstacles you will probably see other aspects of your situation with new clarity." True, but also, you'll get attacked by thos

>"If you stop looking for gender obstacles you will probably see other aspects of your situation with new clarity." True, but also, you'll get attacked by those people who find their gender/race/looks/weight/height/... as a comfortable excuse for not meeting their own expectations. I'm not dismissing gender (and other) issues here. It's just that I believe that the OP's approach of seeing herself as a human being in the pursuit of her own happiness is a much better way to live your life than to define yourself as an oppressed victim. (Accordingly, I'm not commenting on gender issues, just giving the props to the OP.)