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I'm a bit of a veteran of online dating, did it for 6 years, and after quite literally hundreds dates eventually found the mother of my son. So, with that in mi

I'm a bit of a veteran of online dating, did it for 6 years, and after quite literally hundreds dates eventually found the mother of my son. So, with that in mind - What you describe (Tinder), and what Eharmony, Match, Guardian Soulmates or any other site does, does NOTHING to speed up the process of finding Mr. or Ms. Right. All that a site can do is to appeal to specific character types (like to use your phone? Shy, and prefer an introduction? ...). Facebook integration will appeal to some (you, for example) but not to others (me, for example). If you're just looking to get laid you can game chicks on any site. If you want to meet someone to love unconditionally, you just need to bite the bullet and settle in for a long haul. NO web site can predict chemistry or love based on some funky new process and meta data. You need to spend time with someone to see if there's anything there. This means that dating sites are little more than databases of people that maybe, hopefully want what you want. Success is when they want it with you. I learnt quickly that I had better odds by using as many dating sites as I had time for, because (apologies to the romantics) it's a numbers game.

s_q_b 13y ago
I'm not interested in so much finding Mr./Mrs. right. I'm interested in the business problem. The waves I see coming are: a shift from long term romantic involvement to a trend toward shorter term interactions among my generation, a cultural lack of social stigma in smartphone apps vs. websites for dating, and an opportunity to use data that wasn't explicitly entered by the user for the purposes of impressing a prospective date. And while no program can predict love, it can reduce transaction costs, from e.g. distance, lack of social network, social anxiety upon meeting new people, etc. That friction is leading a lot of people to sit home alone when two apartments over there's a lovely person who would be thrilled to be out on a date with them. What type of commitment they make from there is beyond the purview of the technology. All the best to you, your wife, and family. It's fascinating and wonderful to me there are little humans running around very may not have existed without the communication the internet enables :)

s_q_b 13y ago

I'm not interested in so much finding Mr./Mrs. right. I'm interested in the business problem. The waves I see coming are: a shift from long term romantic involvement to a trend toward shorter term interactions among my generation, a cultural lack of social stigma in smartphone apps vs. websites for dating, and an opportunity to use data that wasn't explicitly entered by the user for the purposes of impressing a prospective date. And while no program can predict love, it can reduce transaction costs, from e.g. distance, lack of social network, social anxiety upon meeting new people, etc. That friction is leading a lot of people to sit home alone when two apartments over there's a lovely person who would be thrilled to be out on a date with them. What type of commitment they make from there is beyond the purview of the technology. All the best to you, your wife, and family. It's fascinating and wonderful to me there are little humans running around very may not have existed without the communication the internet enables :)