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I was working at a Parisian dating startup about two or three years ago, we had that friends of friends kind of vibe (it was actually called that) and it didn't

I was working at a Parisian dating startup about two or three years ago, we had that friends of friends kind of vibe (it was actually called that) and it didn't prevent us from failing. More men than women on those websites, the few women you get don't engage anyone for some reason so you usually end up having to buy cheap leads on silly marketing platforms and fake all the figures (men/women ratio, number of users, etc). Good luck though.

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- potatolicious 13y ago
  So, so many reasons, too many to comprehensively cover, but I'll try: - The 80/20 rule. 80% of the messages go to 20% of the users, usually be attractiveness. This is true for both genders, but since Western society in general has men pursuing women, this means the most attractive women get tons of messages, while even the most attractive men get a smattering in comparison. - This causes an overwhelming number of messages to flood into one segment of your population, causing them to stop using the service. Far from having their pick of the litter, their inbox simply fills. It's literally more messages than they have time to read. The most attractive segment of your population shuts down. - In this environment, with no gatekeeping, spam-filtering, or any such mechanism, the optimal male strategy is to spam, and spam a lot. So they do, this is why you see a lot of "hey horny wanna fuck" - because it's really not worth spending more effort on a message that's going into a black hole anyways. This is also why you see a lot of copy/pasting, as well as a lot of "internet trapeze artists" - guys who have some schtick of a message they send over and over again (see: profiles where someone pretends to be a deranged killer, an anthropomorphic cat, or whatever insanity gets them noticed). Signal to noise ratio drops through the floor. - To make an analogy to the greater web. This is like online advertising. There are so many ads out there that you're not going to click on anyways that the optimal strategy isn't to create well-produced advertisements, it's to shove popups and popunders at your browser so fast until finally scoring a click (either by accident or otherwise). So yeah, engagement with women is hard.

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potatolicious 13y ago
So, so many reasons, too many to comprehensively cover, but I'll try: - The 80/20 rule. 80% of the messages go to 20% of the users, usually be attractiveness. This is true for both genders, but since Western society in general has men pursuing women, this means the most attractive women get tons of messages, while even the most attractive men get a smattering in comparison. - This causes an overwhelming number of messages to flood into one segment of your population, causing them to stop using the service. Far from having their pick of the litter, their inbox simply fills. It's literally more messages than they have time to read. The most attractive segment of your population shuts down. - In this environment, with no gatekeeping, spam-filtering, or any such mechanism, the optimal male strategy is to spam, and spam a lot. So they do, this is why you see a lot of "hey horny wanna fuck" - because it's really not worth spending more effort on a message that's going into a black hole anyways. This is also why you see a lot of copy/pasting, as well as a lot of "internet trapeze artists" - guys who have some schtick of a message they send over and over again (see: profiles where someone pretends to be a deranged killer, an anthropomorphic cat, or whatever insanity gets them noticed). Signal to noise ratio drops through the floor. - To make an analogy to the greater web. This is like online advertising. There are so many ads out there that you're not going to click on anyways that the optimal strategy isn't to create well-produced advertisements, it's to shove popups and popunders at your browser so fast until finally scoring a click (either by accident or otherwise). So yeah, engagement with women is hard.