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This is a great read. I'm 27 and struggling to come to terms with many of the issues OP listed. Being naturally introverted, socially awkward, and overly elitis
by dvt 13y ago
This is a great read. I'm 27 and struggling to come to terms with many of the issues OP listed. Being naturally introverted, socially awkward, and overly elitist, (4), (5), (7) and (10) really struck a chord. My younger sister (at 23, she's virtually my opposite) is social, has significantly more friends than I do, and is probably much happier; I've always been jealous.
When I was younger, I thought that my intellect would take me more places than it actually has. I was never social (and we moved around a lot), so - even now - I find it very hard to figure people out. It's something I try to work on every day but it's very much a work still in progress.
- mercer 13y agoGood to hear you're working on it. I can have a tendency to be elitist and see myself as smarter or better than others. I can also get annoyed and frustrated easily. I try to turn that 'off' as much as possible, because it doesn't work. I would add though, that 'figuring people out' is not the most important thing. I've wasted many hours in my twenties in attempting to do this, but what works best, in my opinion, is to just be as transparent, direct, and uncomplicated as possible, combined with an assumption that the other means well, and kindness. Avoid drama. Some of the most popular/liked people I know, interestingly, are not always nice. More important, it seems, is that they are consistent. You know what you get, and you can either take it or leave it.