If you wrongly spy on your partner, you might loose him. If you wrongly spy on an ally, millions of persons might die. Different consequences, different rules

If you wrongly spy on your partner, you might loose him. If you wrongly spy on an ally, millions of persons might die. Different consequences, different rules. Your argument is a straw man. I never called for blind trust into all actions, but for trust in the countries you call your allies. Brasil is unlikely to start the next major war, as is Germany, France or the UN. Spying on those is all about leverage and financial benefits. Is that worth the loss of trust you're risking?