What's a problem solver to do? To put it crudely, stop being so judgemental. And stop viewing people as problems. Stop defining persons' entire identities by

What's a problem solver to do? To put it crudely, stop being so judgemental. And stop viewing people as problems. Stop defining persons' entire identities by one (admittedly awful) behavior or attitude they exhibit. People are more complex than that. And you're not just a "problem solver." You're many other things... Some good, some bad. Some probably as bad as being a sexist or a racist, depending on how you look at things. Life is not math. In all seriousness the best suggestion I have is to try to maintain an attitude of extreme charity towards all people, and to constantly re-focus on the things that you and they hold in common as human beings with needs, wants, intentions, and desires.