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I've actually just moved to NYC and I'm still feeling lonely. It takes a long time for me to turn an acquaintance into a friendship and I'm really not sure the

• parasight 13y ago
  How about some kind of club, team sport, dancing class, or evening classes? Increase the chance of turning an acquaintance into a friendship by getting in touch with more people with similar interests.
• billpaetzke 13y ago
  I recently moved there, too. What I did was go to social meetups (meetup.com) every evening for two weeks until I clicked with someone. That person hangs out a lot with a co-worker, with whom I also clicked. And we all happened to live within a few blocks of each other (gotta love NYC for that). Now we're three best bros and all go out at least twice a week. Also I slammed OkCupid and Tinder for dates. I think I went on 15 first dates my first month here--some back-to-back on the weekend. Beware though: hitting the dating scene hard is superficial social interaction until you start seeing the same person repeatedly.
  • AznHisoka 13y ago
    did you get lucky with any of those dates? :P
• warfangle 13y ago
  I don't have specific advice (my methods of coping were not the most healthy), but I can commiserate. My first year up here was harrowingly lonely. I chalk that partially up to the neighborhood I ended up in first (Astoria). It does take longer to make true friends here. But it does get better. It felt like every other week I was internally debating dropping everything and moving back home. But now... I can't imagine living anywhere else. If you'd like to grab a coffee or a beer some time, check my profile for my email address.