You can be married and lonely; one of 6 kids and lonely; part of a team and lonely. Loneliness is a state of mind and is thus going to be a matter of temperame

You can be married and lonely; one of 6 kids and lonely; part of a team and lonely. Loneliness is a state of mind and is thus going to be a matter of temperament. The author of the essay felt lonely because he had less than the amount of personal contact than he wanted. But someone else with less urge for socialization may have not felt lonely at all under the exact same circumstances.