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Going on Facebook, I see how everyone's social life is better than mine. Going on Hacker News, I see how everyone's startup is doing better than my failed atte
by stephengillie 13y ago
Going on Facebook, I see how everyone's social life is better than mine.
Going on Hacker News, I see how everyone's startup is doing better than my failed attempt.
Going on Hackaday, I see how everyone's working on cooler projects than mine.
The only place I feel good about myself is at work.
- hondje 13y agoGotta learn to love yourself, hombre, because you're stuck with you
- adamio 13y agoWe see what we want to see. Look for the good, it'll change your pov almost immediately.
- rfnslyr 13y agoEveryone publishes the awesome shit they do. Nobody publishes constantly things they suck at, things they failed at, things they won't attain.
- droidist2 13y agoExactly. Don't compare your insides to other people's outsides.
- timbuktwelve 13y ago"Don’t Compare Your Behind-the-Scenes to Other People’s Highlight Reel"
- prezjordan 13y agoWow, love that line. Source?
- droidist2 13y agoI think I first heard it in the movie 28 Days with Sandra Bullock, but I believe it was already a popular saying in AA and other types of self help and therapy.
- ergest 13y agoI was about to say the same thing! Surviorship Bias. It applies to everything you mentioned (Facebook, HN, HackADay) http://youarenotsosmart.com/2013/05/23/survivorship-bias/ http://youarenotsosmart.com/2013/05/23/survivorship-bias/
- MartinCron 13y agoI find that I'm pretty self-deprecating just about wherever I publish, but I guess that's just showing off how awesome my sense of humor is.
- frooxie 13y agoI also post self-deprecating comments, but you're probably a lot better at it than I am.
- unclebucknasty 13y agoHeh. Well done.
- canadiancreed 13y agoPersonally I publish both the good and bad sides to things going on around me, mainly because I don't believe in whitewashing how things are, and also because I use it to keep in contact with family and friends that are of a distance away. What I've found is that if there's a stretch where there's a lot of bad news, people will just tune you out, where comments dwindle and activity lessens even when that trend has reversed itself. In my incredibly small and unscientific sample size, it seemed that with negative news, there was a greater chance for people to "tune out", while people I knew that did the "everything is awesome" timelines would have higher then average interaction. Thought it was interesting at least. I wonder if would be reproducible, or if it's just a weird quirk for the people that I know on there.
- visakanv 13y agoI make it a point to blog about my suckage every day, so that if I ever get successful, there's a nice big chunk of evidence of how a person can suck before getting good at something.
- reinhardt 13y agoEmbrace indifference and you'll feel equally good* about yourself everywhere. * or bad. Or meh. Especially meh.
- johnchristopher 13y agoTrue. Indifference definitely doesn't work for long.
- solistice 13y agoThe advice I heard in that respect is that you go to walmart for a couple of hours and just look at the people there. But on a more serious note, not only beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but sucess also is. There's certainly some artists bias there, and you should become aware of it. You know all of your projects to the bone, with all their belmishes, and even though every one else is amazed at what you do, you think you're bad at it, just because you know every detail of it.
- yareally 13y agoThere's also the "grass is always greener" complex as well. The perception that what someone else has or does is better than what you do because it's different. It may be true or it could all be in one's mind. To want to always improve is a good thing, but in high doses it can be toxic.
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