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The reply button takes an eternity to appear and it's getting messy, so I'll just respond here. What you're all missing guys is that if that app hooks you with

The reply button takes an eternity to appear and it's getting messy, so I'll just respond here. What you're all missing guys is that if that app hooks you with a man (and in my mind is more of a question of when and not if) it would be way more than an inconvenience. Yes you would politely refuse and move on, but at that point you would've also wasted precious hours of your time. Maybe you drove for miles in traffic only to find that you've been hooked up with a dude, that' my fear.

jlgreco 13y ago
> it would way more than an inconvenience. ...and then you proceed to describe an inconvenience... How is it hooking you up with a man that you are not attracted to any more problematic than it hooking you up with a woman that you are not attracted to? What if I drive miles in traffic only to be hooked up with somebody with long hair!? I prefer short hair, their profile picture was terribly misleading, the horror! You should seriously consider the possibility that you have some prejudices that are compromising your ability to reason here.
- cliveowen 13y ago
  When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. If I drive for 7 miles only to find a dude instead of a girl, I don't know about you, but I wouldn't try and hook up with him but get the hell home, and I would be very disappointed in the misleading service.
  - jlgreco 13y ago
    > When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. Certainly not. If I am not attracted to the woman I am not going to waste her and my time. I'm not going to try to have sex with her anyway, why would I? If I get hooked up with a woman that I don't find attractive then it is just as much a waste of my time as if it was a man.
    - cliveowen 13y ago
      Maybe you do find her attractive only to find out she's a man. That's the problem I'm talking about.
      - jlgreco 13y ago
        Obviously you've never so much as dipped your pinkie toe in the internet dating scene (or been set up on blind dates in general). Ever hear of the "myspace angle"? What you are describing happens with women too. It is not a big deal.
        cliveowen 13y ago
        "It is not a big deal." It's not. For people who aren't me, that is.
        jlgreco 13y ago
        Yeah, no kidding. You are pretty damn far out of their target audience. If that sort of thing is a big deal to you, then frankly it is best for everyone else that you don't use those kind of services.
  - Bud 13y ago
    It's not the misleading service; it's the misleading person who misled you, in particular, that you should be disappointed in. I wouldn't display too much animus about this. It makes you look, well, homophobic. And also like you don't have enough good sense to pre-vent people to make sure they are the gender you are seeking before meeting them, if you are so very concerned that someone might be (gasp, horrors) misleading you online.
SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago
> and in my mind is more of a question of when and not if Citation needed. Is this backed up by personal experience, someone else's data, or is it just something that you spend a lot of time thinking about?
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jlgreco 13y ago

> it would way more than an inconvenience. ...and then you proceed to describe an inconvenience... How is it hooking you up with a man that you are not attracted to any more problematic than it hooking you up with a woman that you are not attracted to? What if I drive miles in traffic only to be hooked up with somebody with long hair!? I prefer short hair, their profile picture was terribly misleading, the horror! You should seriously consider the possibility that you have some prejudices that are compromising your ability to reason here.

cliveowen 13y ago
When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. If I drive for 7 miles only to find a dude instead of a girl, I don't know about you, but I wouldn't try and hook up with him but get the hell home, and I would be very disappointed in the misleading service.
- jlgreco 13y ago
  > When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. Certainly not. If I am not attracted to the woman I am not going to waste her and my time. I'm not going to try to have sex with her anyway, why would I? If I get hooked up with a woman that I don't find attractive then it is just as much a waste of my time as if it was a man.
  - cliveowen 13y ago
    Maybe you do find her attractive only to find out she's a man. That's the problem I'm talking about.
    - jlgreco 13y ago
      Obviously you've never so much as dipped your pinkie toe in the internet dating scene (or been set up on blind dates in general). Ever hear of the "myspace angle"? What you are describing happens with women too. It is not a big deal.
      - cliveowen 13y ago
        "It is not a big deal." It's not. For people who aren't me, that is.
        jlgreco 13y ago
        Yeah, no kidding. You are pretty damn far out of their target audience. If that sort of thing is a big deal to you, then frankly it is best for everyone else that you don't use those kind of services.
- Bud 13y ago
  It's not the misleading service; it's the misleading person who misled you, in particular, that you should be disappointed in. I wouldn't display too much animus about this. It makes you look, well, homophobic. And also like you don't have enough good sense to pre-vent people to make sure they are the gender you are seeking before meeting them, if you are so very concerned that someone might be (gasp, horrors) misleading you online.

SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago

> and in my mind is more of a question of when and not if Citation needed. Is this backed up by personal experience, someone else's data, or is it just something that you spend a lot of time thinking about?

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