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It's not. You can't judge these services as you would in the real world, these are online/app services, think about chat-roulette: you can't use the thing witho

It's not. You can't judge these services as you would in the real world, these are online/app services, think about chat-roulette: you can't use the thing without seeing someone whipping his penis in front of you. These kind of services tend to have an 80% of male populace and generally speaking, gender aside, a whole lot of leeway for abuse, not least of which is lying about your sexual preferences, and before you know it the service is polluted with false profiles and girls that are actually men.

SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago
So your fear that it will "hook you up with a tranny" without your knowledge isn't transphobic? Right, got it.
- cliveowen 13y ago
  Frankly I would fear if it hooked me up with anyone other than a girl, transvestite or less, and I'm positive that would happen sooner rather than later. With these kind of services it's just bound to happen.
  - SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago
    Well, it's certainly something you've given a lot of thought to and is foremost in your mind.
  - jlgreco 13y ago
    The people in their target audience are obviously not crippled by such a paranoia. Do you know what happens when I am set up with somebody that I discover I am not interested in (be it by algorithm or a misguided friend, it makes no difference)? I politely let the person know that I am not interested, we finish our meal and then go separate ways. Like adults.
- klibertp 13y ago
  Answering to sibling comment: why would you be afraid? Is a polite chat and not doing anything with person you don't find attractive not an option with this app? Once you're hooked, do you absolutely have to fsck? I don't think so. You really sound like you are afraid of just being in one room with the "tranny". You're probably not, but I read your comments as implying that, just FYI.
  - jlgreco 13y ago
    Yeah, you may as well be afraid that your friend will suggest you go out with somebody that you don't find attractive, or somebody who bores you, or somebody that is bored by you. What's the big deal?
- cliveowen 13y ago
  The reply button takes an eternity to appear and it's getting messy, so I'll just respond here. What you're all missing guys is that if that app hooks you with a man (and in my mind is more of a question of when and not if) it would be way more than an inconvenience. Yes you would politely refuse and move on, but at that point you would've also wasted precious hours of your time. Maybe you drove for miles in traffic only to find that you've been hooked up with a dude, that' my fear.
  - jlgreco 13y ago
    > it would way more than an inconvenience. ...and then you proceed to describe an inconvenience... How is it hooking you up with a man that you are not attracted to any more problematic than it hooking you up with a woman that you are not attracted to? What if I drive miles in traffic only to be hooked up with somebody with long hair!? I prefer short hair, their profile picture was terribly misleading, the horror! You should seriously consider the possibility that you have some prejudices that are compromising your ability to reason here.
    - cliveowen 13y ago
      When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. If I drive for 7 miles only to find a dude instead of a girl, I don't know about you, but I wouldn't try and hook up with him but get the hell home, and I would be very disappointed in the misleading service.
      - jlgreco 13y ago
        > When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. Certainly not. If I am not attracted to the woman I am not going to waste her and my time. I'm not going to try to have sex with her anyway, why would I? If I get hooked up with a woman that I don't find attractive then it is just as much a waste of my time as if it was a man.
        13y ago

SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago

So your fear that it will "hook you up with a tranny" without your knowledge isn't transphobic? Right, got it.

cliveowen 13y ago
Frankly I would fear if it hooked me up with anyone other than a girl, transvestite or less, and I'm positive that would happen sooner rather than later. With these kind of services it's just bound to happen.
- SideburnsOfDoom 13y ago
  Well, it's certainly something you've given a lot of thought to and is foremost in your mind.
- jlgreco 13y ago
  The people in their target audience are obviously not crippled by such a paranoia. Do you know what happens when I am set up with somebody that I discover I am not interested in (be it by algorithm or a misguided friend, it makes no difference)? I politely let the person know that I am not interested, we finish our meal and then go separate ways. Like adults.
klibertp 13y ago
Answering to sibling comment: why would you be afraid? Is a polite chat and not doing anything with person you don't find attractive not an option with this app? Once you're hooked, do you absolutely have to fsck? I don't think so. You really sound like you are afraid of just being in one room with the "tranny". You're probably not, but I read your comments as implying that, just FYI.
- jlgreco 13y ago
  Yeah, you may as well be afraid that your friend will suggest you go out with somebody that you don't find attractive, or somebody who bores you, or somebody that is bored by you. What's the big deal?
cliveowen 13y ago
The reply button takes an eternity to appear and it's getting messy, so I'll just respond here. What you're all missing guys is that if that app hooks you with a man (and in my mind is more of a question of when and not if) it would be way more than an inconvenience. Yes you would politely refuse and move on, but at that point you would've also wasted precious hours of your time. Maybe you drove for miles in traffic only to find that you've been hooked up with a dude, that' my fear.
- jlgreco 13y ago
  > it would way more than an inconvenience. ...and then you proceed to describe an inconvenience... How is it hooking you up with a man that you are not attracted to any more problematic than it hooking you up with a woman that you are not attracted to? What if I drive miles in traffic only to be hooked up with somebody with long hair!? I prefer short hair, their profile picture was terribly misleading, the horror! You should seriously consider the possibility that you have some prejudices that are compromising your ability to reason here.
  - cliveowen 13y ago
    When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. If I drive for 7 miles only to find a dude instead of a girl, I don't know about you, but I wouldn't try and hook up with him but get the hell home, and I would be very disappointed in the misleading service.
    - jlgreco 13y ago
      > When you're hooking up with a girl you know you're just giving it a shot and if you don't hit it off you just drive home. Certainly not. If I am not attracted to the woman I am not going to waste her and my time. I'm not going to try to have sex with her anyway, why would I? If I get hooked up with a woman that I don't find attractive then it is just as much a waste of my time as if it was a man.
      - 13y ago