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This does not solve the issue that men and women, in most cases, have fundamentally different mind sets in regards to sexuality. It assumes, incorrectly, that

This does not solve the issue that men and women, in most cases, have fundamentally different mind sets in regards to sexuality. It assumes, incorrectly, that anonymous sex is something that appeals to a large majority of women. I am going to go out on a limb here and say the inverse is true.

enraged_camel 13y ago
>>It assumes, incorrectly, that anonymous sex is something that appeals to a large majority of women. I don't have any citations handy, but in several gender studies classes back in college, I learned about research that has shown that most women actually have fantasies about hooking up with complete strangers. Where it gets complicated is that these fantasies almost never reflect actual desire, but rather serve as a way to enable certain feelings in the woman: excited, wanted, dominated, etc. This is why romance novels almost never describe the physical traits of the male character and focus overwhelmingly on how he acts and how he makes the female protagonist feel. It's also why men can almost never relate to such novels even when they read them.
zhemao 13y ago
It also assumes that anonymous sex is something that appeals to a large majority of men. I'm not entirely certain that this actually holds up to evidence either. Does anyone know of any research that studies this? I vaguely remember reading an article about this at one point.
emilisto 13y ago
You're so incredibly wrong here. From my life experience, you can be one of the following: 1. a smart guy who has slept with less than 5 girls and never had a non-sexual friend who's a girl, or 2. An ignorant, average intelligent guy who's slept with a lot of girls but as in 1, never been friends with a girl. I see upon writing this that the common denominator in these is the lack if a girl _friend_. Because if you had one, who would talk open heartedly with you, and without the boy/girl politeness mask on, you'd see that they share a lot more than you think. They occasionally fantasize about a stranger who can give them a quick and dirty lay as well. Although not if said stranger had no idea what is happening and is gonna tell his buddies the next day about the slut he fucked over. But rather that he met this awesome person who had an great sense of humor, taste in movies, and knew how to give awesome blow jobs. That's the kind of girls that our world, being more and more rid of caveman sexism, is fostering. I excuse myself in advance fornthe possibility that I'm putting too many words in other peoples mouths, but your attitude just makes me depressed and angry.

enraged_camel 13y ago

>>It assumes, incorrectly, that anonymous sex is something that appeals to a large majority of women. I don't have any citations handy, but in several gender studies classes back in college, I learned about research that has shown that most women actually have fantasies about hooking up with complete strangers. Where it gets complicated is that these fantasies almost never reflect actual desire, but rather serve as a way to enable certain feelings in the woman: excited, wanted, dominated, etc. This is why romance novels almost never describe the physical traits of the male character and focus overwhelmingly on how he acts and how he makes the female protagonist feel. It's also why men can almost never relate to such novels even when they read them.

zhemao 13y ago

It also assumes that anonymous sex is something that appeals to a large majority of men. I'm not entirely certain that this actually holds up to evidence either. Does anyone know of any research that studies this? I vaguely remember reading an article about this at one point.

emilisto 13y ago

You're so incredibly wrong here. From my life experience, you can be one of the following: 1. a smart guy who has slept with less than 5 girls and never had a non-sexual friend who's a girl, or 2. An ignorant, average intelligent guy who's slept with a lot of girls but as in 1, never been friends with a girl. I see upon writing this that the common denominator in these is the lack if a girl _friend_. Because if you had one, who would talk open heartedly with you, and without the boy/girl politeness mask on, you'd see that they share a lot more than you think. They occasionally fantasize about a stranger who can give them a quick and dirty lay as well. Although not if said stranger had no idea what is happening and is gonna tell his buddies the next day about the slut he fucked over. But rather that he met this awesome person who had an great sense of humor, taste in movies, and knew how to give awesome blow jobs. That's the kind of girls that our world, being more and more rid of caveman sexism, is fostering. I excuse myself in advance fornthe possibility that I'm putting too many words in other peoples mouths, but your attitude just makes me depressed and angry.