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"It will just happen" is advice for normal people, not you. Nothing will ever happen, not a single thing, that you don't work for. You have a chance to experime

"It will just happen" is advice for normal people, not you. Nothing will ever happen, not a single thing, that you don't work for. You have a chance to experiment and make mistakes socializing with girls and it's acceptable to even be rather crazy, and everyone will grow up and forget. Above literally all things, don't waste this chance. Going to a school program that has more men than women is a colossal failure of the kind of intelligence that actually matters. A relationship is the single biggest determinant of human happiness for you, weight it accordingly. Your window for finding one will end much sooner than you'd like so don't take for granted any little experience you ever have with a woman, because they will get rarer tending to zero.

mr_spothawk 13y ago
>A relationship is the single biggest determinant of human happiness for you, weight it accordingly. Having spent some years in bad relationships I had no business getting into, I don't agree with your statement.
EllaMentry 13y ago
Alternatively... Recognize that you will never be happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself. There is plenty of time to fall in love, seize the opportunity while you are young to explore and don't let yourself be tied down to a town/province/country. My first serious relationship didn't come along till I was 24...by that point I had lived in 3 countries, visited dozens more and had hundreds of exciting opportunities (both in work and outside of work). I know who I am outside of a relationship and I know that is a very attractive quality in myself and others. "Going to a school program that has more men than women is a colossal failure of the kind of intelligence that actually matters." Oh please! Going to a school program based on anything other than the quality of schooling program is a colossal failure of the kind of intelligence that matters. Schools have more than one department. Do what you love to do and make friends (of all kinds) from all over the school (Humanities, Hard Sciences, Maths, Soft Sciences..) - Life does not end with the classroom door.
- Almaviva 13y ago
  You at 16 didn't need the kind of advice that I did. Congratulations, seriously.

mr_spothawk 13y ago

>A relationship is the single biggest determinant of human happiness for you, weight it accordingly. Having spent some years in bad relationships I had no business getting into, I don't agree with your statement.

EllaMentry 13y ago

Alternatively... Recognize that you will never be happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself. There is plenty of time to fall in love, seize the opportunity while you are young to explore and don't let yourself be tied down to a town/province/country. My first serious relationship didn't come along till I was 24...by that point I had lived in 3 countries, visited dozens more and had hundreds of exciting opportunities (both in work and outside of work). I know who I am outside of a relationship and I know that is a very attractive quality in myself and others. "Going to a school program that has more men than women is a colossal failure of the kind of intelligence that actually matters." Oh please! Going to a school program based on anything other than the quality of schooling program is a colossal failure of the kind of intelligence that matters. Schools have more than one department. Do what you love to do and make friends (of all kinds) from all over the school (Humanities, Hard Sciences, Maths, Soft Sciences..) - Life does not end with the classroom door.

Almaviva 13y ago
You at 16 didn't need the kind of advice that I did. Congratulations, seriously.