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From talking to a lot of married couples it seems as if marriage takes a lot of work and a lot of self-sacrifice. Perhaps the maturity of age has something to d
by TrevorJ 17y ago
From talking to a lot of married couples it seems as if marriage takes a lot of work and a lot of self-sacrifice. Perhaps the maturity of age has something to do with the successful marriages being those that where entered into later.
- josefresco 17y agoDo we actually have data that shows later-in-life marriages are more successful? (besides the submitters anecdotal evidence)
- mmc 17y agohttp://www.divorcerate.org/ http://www.divorcerate.org/ has the following for men: age rate <20 11.7% -24 38.8% -29 22.3% -34 11.6% -39% 6.5% So if you are just playing the numbers, wait until your late 20's at least. But please, don't play the numbers. As someone already said, don't try to plan love.
- bokonist 17y agoThose statistics are totally the wrong ones to look at. It's "Age at marriage for those who divorce in America". You want "Divorce rate by age at marriage".
- breck 17y ago"Divorce rate by age at marriage" + the age of marriage as a percentage of all marriages (otherwise you might find 80% of marriages at age 60 are successful but fail to realize that probably accounts for a <1% of all marriages). I think it's kind of funny that we're all seeking statistics on marriage. Where are the romantics on HN?
- davi 17y agoNumerate romantics seek sanity check?
- mmc 17y agoVery good point. Finding the second breakdown seems harder. At any rate, it's still the wrong game to play for the OP.
- sokoloff 17y agoAnd presumably you want that for only first marriages.
- lutorm 17y agoRelationships take a lot of work and a lot of self-sacrifice, regardless of whether you are married or not, I'd say.
- TrevorJ 17y agoI agree with that. I think it's a continuum. Most other relationships don't have the expectation that he should be life-long, day in and day out things. That added constraint ups the anty on the difficulty a bit I think.