> It comes down to tact, an I don't think there are any "rules" to applying it. Actually, there are rules, and they're called "etiquette". It's a cached looku

> It comes down to tact, an I don't think there are any "rules" to applying it. Actually, there are rules, and they're called "etiquette". It's a cached lookup table of what millions of other people have already decided is tactful, and what is not. Etiquette, like lookup tables, serves two purposes: 1) it spares you a lot of computation to arrive at results that are already known 2) it implements the DRY principle Etiquette serves a bonus third purpose: 3) helps you avoid the temptation to justify whatever sort of selfish bad behavior appeals to you at the moment via bogus reasoning. If people "just DO NOT EVER text at a funeral", then you can remember that fact and avoid concluding that "if they really really need to check on how the WoW guild raid is going, they can".