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> That's why the most important part of my post was trying to find people who could relate to what I'm talking about. Right, but you still have to talk about i

> That's why the most important part of my post was trying to find people who could relate to what I'm talking about. Right, but you still have to talk about it carefully. People here definitely got obsessed with your dumbing down comment. It's probably good to avoid words like smart or dumb since they can end up being a distraction. > How much value was there for me in explaining what I meant by "lounge in a club"? Explaining the lounge area was very helpful to me. The lounge areas in the places I've been to aren't really separate from the main part -- so not quiet or intimate like what you're describing. Your comments about conversation there make more sense now. > I don't understand why you think that, or why you think the problem I have is with the strip club. I see only two comments that mention it besides your own, and your original post has it inserted as a distracting aside. I was just observing, not trying to confront you. I get that you're trying to give an encompassing view of your social circle. But then if it is supposed to illustrate patterns of behavior, does it mean you regularly do things with your social group that you don't enjoy?

ilitirit 17y ago
> But then if it is supposed to illustrate patterns of behavior, does it mean you do things with your social group that you don't enjoy? Yes, as they do with me. Compromise is part of what builds good relationships. To me, it's about weighing the pros and cons of situation. eg. Pros: I'll be with my friends and we usually have a good time together Cons: I don't enjoy visiting strip clubs If I don't go with them, what do I do? Stay at home, go out on my own, or hook up with other people? At the time none of these were desirable. The cons outweighed the pros, so I decided to join them. This is generally how I tackle things.

ilitirit 17y ago

> But then if it is supposed to illustrate patterns of behavior, does it mean you do things with your social group that you don't enjoy? Yes, as they do with me. Compromise is part of what builds good relationships. To me, it's about weighing the pros and cons of situation. eg. Pros: I'll be with my friends and we usually have a good time together Cons: I don't enjoy visiting strip clubs If I don't go with them, what do I do? Stay at home, go out on my own, or hook up with other people? At the time none of these were desirable. The cons outweighed the pros, so I decided to join them. This is generally how I tackle things.