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I struggled with this early on. When I was in high school, I went to a college program and realized all my friends sucked, I wanted to have friends who would ac
by jkaykin 13y ago
I struggled with this early on. When I was in high school, I went to a college program and realized all my friends sucked, I wanted to have friends who would actually talk about important things not alcohol or parties, so I left them and started looking for better friends.
As I got older, I looked for and found great friends outside of school, friends I made through tech meetups and my job (friends of friends as well). I now have about 10 close friends who I try to talk to at least once a week and schedule some sort of way to get together. I have a few friends with whom I go out to eat with at least once a month and others who I try to go to meet ups/events with.
If you are looking for friends in your area, I would suggest using http://atthepool.com http://atthepool.com and http://highlig.ht http://highlig.ht. You can meet some cool people that way.
Once you find a couple awesome friends, schedule dinner or lunch with them on the first/last day of every month, that way you have something to look forward to and you know for sure that you will see your friends at least once a month.
Hope this helps!
- pixelart 13y agoYeah, it's definitely gotten harder to meet people. What has your experience been with friends who have moved for jobs or other reasons? I'm impressed that you talk to your close friends once a week. Are all these friends in the local area, or do you talk to them online? I think only seeing friends a couple of times a year in real life has led to us not talking much anymore.
- jkaykin 13y agoMy experience with friends who moved away really resulted in us attempting to communicate a lot online. For friends that I had very strong bonds with, we would try to stay in touch any way we could and attempt to visit each other. Friends who were just ok, eventually, we just slowly stopped talking as often. You just have to accept it and move on. Yes, most of my friends are in my area. I communicate with them online/text and we try to set up things to do (even if it's just grabbing some lunch).
- pixelart 13y agoYeah, I was pretty close friends with the people who moved away, but we've mostly stopped talking. I think the hard part is that it takes time to develop close friendships, especially with a full time job.
- caw 13y agoFor my group of friends, I was the person who moved away after college. The rest are still together, and some of them are still roommates. I keep in touch occasionally. A few of my friends I try to call (no one ever seems to call me). Mostly we IM on Steam, or sometimes I hop on Ventrilo. They're usually gaming, and while I've tried to buy the same games so we could kind of hang out, they keep different schedules, and anything with a leveling component they get really far ahead because they play all the time. When I head back for whatever reason we generally try to meet up, even if it's just grabbing food.
- pixelart 13y agoInteresting. Some of my friends play games, but I don't anymore. That actually seems to be a big disconnect. Among my friends who play games, it seems like all their close friends play games too.
- onedev 13y agoThe first paragraph of your post is what I'm going through right now.
- jkaykin 13y agoThere was a point where I was so miserable that I was considering transferring schools because I didn't like any of the people I went to school with. The great teachers and my girlfriend were what helped me stay sane. To be honest, look elsewhere. Find friends who are programmers and into startups, you will find that they are much more interesting and mature.