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its not a false dichotomy. sometimes tone IS content. if a person did something that you consider to be such a bad error that you wish them to hear your deep co
by metaphorm 13y ago
its not a false dichotomy. sometimes tone IS content. if a person did something that you consider to be such a bad error that you wish them to hear your deep concern/annoyance then it is correct to be "rude", or rather to use harsh language and avoid sugar coating. Linus exemplifies this style of communication.
- DanBC 13y ago> rather to use harsh language and avoid sugar coating. It is tedious when people keep saying that "avoiding sugar coating" means "be rude". It is fine to avoid sugar coating something. It's not fine to be rude. > such a bad error that you wish them to hear your deep concern/annoyance There are many ways to express deep concern or annoyance without being rude, and without sugar coating something. "It is very frustrating to me that I have to check so much of your work. Please take extra-special care next time you commit something. Here are the errors you've made so far. This has involved a lot of extra work, and has distracted me from doing other work. This is not the first time you've made these simple mistakes. We appreciate your effort, but it might be better if you worked on $OTHER_THING rather than $THIS_THING until you understand our requirements." That is professional, harsh, true, constructive, and gets stuff done. It's not sugar coated. It's also not rude.