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It's a terrible apology. See this response for an excellent explanation of why: http://lists.lrug.org/pipermail/chat-lrug.org/2013-July/009141.html http://lis

• sp332 13y ago
  I don't like it. The questions seem more like rhetorical accusations instead of a conversation. I really don't like point 4 since the guy takes personal responsibility at the beginning of the letter (which this reply says he doesn't). And I think the invitation to talk follows the advice in this post to the letter: http://www.maryrobinettekowal.com/journal/on-sexual-harassment-at-conventions-elise-matheson-speaks-out/ http://www.maryrobinettekowal.com/journal/on-sexual-harassme... That is, making it as easy as possible to report harmful behavior. And point 3 is just pointing out that he's getting defensive. Well of course he's defensive, you're attacking him! Edit: OK I had to read the link from point 2 twice but I think I understand it now. However I don't see how it's relevant since it says "I didn't intend for you to feel that way, so if you do feel that way, don't blame me! My intent magically inoculates me from responsibility for what I actually said and how it was received!" But the apology specifically says "I got it wrong" and never claims that people shouldn't be offended. The whole reply is just wrong.