> People have the capacity to handle anything that is said to them...I can actually say to myself 'pull it together, words are meaningless' or 'this guy is an i

> People have the capacity to handle anything that is said to them...I can actually say to myself 'pull it together, words are meaningless' or 'this guy is an ignorant, why would I care what he says'. If words are meaningless why would saying anything to yourself change your state? It sounds like you are saying that you can use your own words to yourself to combat the harm of someone's words. That's very much different than saying that words have no meaning. In fact, you are saying that people's words impose a cost on you. The fact that people have "capacity" to handle things said to them means a resource is being used.